Change Is Hard

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Too busy to know

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I’m feeling  disconnected.   I’ve been so busy lately that I haven’t had time to post or even read very much.   Katie and I had school Monday night, I played in a concert Tuesday night and I worked late last night.  I still haven’t caught up with that lost hour of last weekend’s daylight savings time adjustment.  Here it is after 8 and I’ve just sat down for the evening.  Where is the time going?

So.  A little bit of this, a little bit of that.  Let’s start with Katie and school.  This week was our second week in the correct, ‘Novice Motivation’ class.   In last week’s class I felt like we were a bother for the instructor who clearly didn’t remember we used to come all the time.  Because Katie wasn’t up to the instructor’s expectations with heeling we were pretty much ignored.  A lot of eye rolling went with the ignoring.  About the only thing she said to me was “you’re a nice Mom.”  And she didn’t mean it as a compliment.  Even though Katie did a perfect recall and was perfect at her sits and downs she would hide behind me every time the instructor with her loud voice came near.  I felt terrible.

This week Katie and I practiced during the week, her Dad didn’t feed her just before class, and she was less afraid of the big noisy building.  And I was more diligent with my corrections when she wandered.  So Katie gave me a bit more attention, though not much more than the week before.  And on her long sit she laid down.  Twice.  So when we did the long down I made her sit.  She was not happy with me.  “All the other dogs get to lay down MOM!!!”   Her recall is still good.  I felt a bit better by the end of the class.  We haven’t practiced heeling this week at all.  I have too much going on and I need to make time for practice this weekend or I’ll be miserable at school again on Monday night.  It’s so hard to get there by 6:30 when I work an hour south of here and class is 30 minutes north of here and I have to swing by and pick up the dog.  OK enough whining.

Tuesday night we played a concert with the 7th graders again.  I didn’t have time to practice since our last concert, but it went OK.  Personally I think we played too long for those 200 7th graders to sit still.  But we DID have a captive full house audience!

Tuesday and Wednesday were really terrible at work.  I can’t talk about it but suffice it to say that if I could retire right now I’d be gone.  Again.  I hope it’s just a bad string of days and not the way it’s going to be into the future.  I’m very very tired.  OK.  Enough whining now.

So maybe it’s just as well I’ve been too busy to hang out here.  Because I don’t feel like I’m very good company.  Katie’s barking.  Again.  She barked for an hour last night at 2:00 a.m.  We finally put her in her crate.  It was heaven to sleep without her. Could be I’m a slow learner and she should be there every night.  We’ll see.

OH!  And I forgot the whole point of this post was supposed to be that I’m too busy to notice stuff.  It took me almost all day to realize why so many people were wearing green today.   I guess I’ve been too busy to realize the month of March was…well..(forgive me!)… marching on.  Here we are at St. Patty’s and I didn’t even know it.

I don’t suppose wearing green tomorrow would be the same.

Author: dawnkinster

I'm a long time banker having worked in banks since the age of 17. I took a break when I turned 50 and went back to school. I graduated right when the economy took a turn for the worst and after a year of library work found myself unemployed. I was lucky that my previous bank employer wanted me back. So here I am again, a long time banker. Change is hard.

16 thoughts on “Too busy to know

  1. Wow, I cant believe the teacher treated you like that. Not everyone needs to be the best at everything. Maybe you just want to spend time with your dog and learn something. I try to always remember that when Im teaching a class. Not everyone has the same goals as me. If they arent practicing weave poles and it shows. Thats ok, independent weave poles are important to them. You can only do what you can. Life is busy and you deserve to give yourself a break. Class is suppose to be fun and a stress reliever (at least to me) I go to class to forget my problems and take a break from my life. I wish you could find another instructor. And no offense but your dog should be able to go all night without going to the bathroom, unless she sick. So make her tough it out so you get some sleep and feel better. We let our dogs run all over us, ME included .LOL Miley can be really pushy about going for walks and its my fault. So Ive be working on going for a walk, when Im ready to go. Not when she is doing laps around the living and running to the door barking. Tough love for Miley.LOL I hope things get better soon. I feel for you. Now put your feet up and read a good book.

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  2. Concert with 7th graders? What’s that?

    I wore green today, but not many people saw me. Quiet day at the bookstore. And Sarah, being a dog, probably doesn’t distinguish green.

    Why does the instructor speak in a loud voice? Louder than necessary? Of course we are all on YOUR side, Dawn, so when you’re not happy after a class we want to blame the instructor, you know! I like Diana’s comment about different people in a class having different goals.

    I predict the days ahead will be sunny for you, and you and Katie will brim with confidence and joy.

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  3. What Diana said! And I hope that things get better at work soon – I couldn’t do your job – being a musician I have never worked a 9 to 5 job in my life and I just couldn’t do it – I admire you and everyone who can. Take care of yourself and try not to let it all get to you. Spring is here and things will be looking up!

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  4. To bad my mom is not your teacher–she would love both you and Katie. None of this comes quick. Do you hold treats in your mouth to get Katie to look up at you–“eyes.” Do you step off on your heal leg/foot-the one closest to Katie? I am sure I am already telling you things you know–not trying to be a know-it-all but some of these tricks make training so much easier. Crates are a wonderful thing…the only one of my pups not in a crate is Rascal and she is a champion sleeper. A good recall is one of the toughest things to get! Atta GirlS. Tell your teacher to go fetch.
    Can’t help with music or jobs. Although Cole recently informed me that he would like to take piano…remember advice goes both ways!!
    I bet tomorrow is a better day!

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  5. Unlike everyone else you know, I am a complete flunk-out at dog training, so I will be very, very quiet about that part. Although I did like Katybeth’s “Tell the teacher to go fetch.” Yes indeed I liked that very much. Oh. I guess I wasn’t quiet about that part. OK, I’ll leave all the rest of it alone. This is me, tip-toeing away verrrry quietly.

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  6. Maybe it is the time of year or something, this seems to be what lots of people going through – too much stress just waiting for some time to enjoy the summer. There is something good around the corner though – just wait and see.

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  7. Everyone needs to whine & complain sometimes. I’m suspicious of people who never do. Glad we could be here to let you vent. 🙂 Hope things get better on all counts.

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  8. TGIF! Right? I hope you are able to get some downtime this weekend to recharge your batteries.

    Don’t feel bad about forgetting St. Patrirck’s day. My dad, the math professor, didn’t realize it was the most important math holiday this week (pi day- 3.14) until the day after! Unbelievable 🙂

    Oreo can’t tolerate loud voices either. Luckily, everyone seems to be super quiet when it is our turn. Maybe you should look for a different place to train? Seems like this place stresses you out.

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  9. I DO just want to spend time with Katie and get some coaching about our dismal heeling that’s always been dismal. Sometimes just less dismal than other times. I don’t want to be a star obedience competer. I just want to finish the last leg of Rally Novice, and the Rally class is taught during the day so I can’t go to it anymore.

    I used to hold food near my chin and say “watch” and she got pretty good. I haven’t done that for a long time, I guess because we “graduated” from that years ago…probably need to go back to it for awhile.

    Gerry…you make me laugh when I want to cry…THANKS!

    PJ…our band conductor is the Middle School band director and we do joint concerts with them. There are four bands of them…and one of us…and she makes them all stay to hear us after they are finished with their portion of the evening. So we get all of them plus all their parents as a captive audience. Works great! 🙂

    And thanks to everyone else too…I’m just worn out.

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  10. I like Gerry’s comment. “Tell the teacher to go fetch”. LOL

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  11. I hope you have a peaceful and quiet weekend!

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  12. Mom was like a zombie too after someone stole her hour…she’s almost better, but ready for the weekend. Hope you have time to recoup!!

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  13. Sorry to hear about the class not going well. I agree with Diana, class is suppose to be fun and stress free. I haven’t been through a whole bunch of classes, but found my dogs respond better when I’m relaxed. If I’m nervous or stressed out in class, so are they and it shows in their performance.
    I really do hope things start to get better soon. When I’m going through a hard time it is just nice to know others are pulling for me. So, just know, I’m pulling for you!
    Take care and I hope you enjoy your weekend. Katie is such a sweetie in the pic! 🙂

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  14. Our dogs pretty much rule the house, so I sure can’t talk about training. Except (like Gerry) I do feel no respect for an instructor of anything that walks around displaying disdain and superiority. Uh huh! I agree SHE needs training. To fetch. To do Long Long Stays. In the corner.
    I’m reading a book called Inside of a Dog by Alexandra Horowitz – apparently dogs do see blues and greens, but other colors are just shades of grays. It’s fascinating reading. But my dogs still rule, so I’m obviously trainable, just not a good trainer.

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  15. I think your instructors sound like they need to re-evaluate why they are teaching. It sure doesn’t seem like it’s an environment that is very conducive to relaxed learning, just stress. 😦 I’ve been in situations like that, and I never do well and rarely do my dogs. I hope that it goes better next time.

    As for the feeling too busy lately, I can totally relate. I keep asking people what day it is, and I can’t seem to even remember what I’ve done cause it’s just a whirlwind of activity. I’m ready for things to slow down a bit and settle back into a routine.

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  16. The days are getting longer. The weather is getting warmer.
    I wish you would retire and move south. I know a lovely place on a beautiful lake, that needs a dog and a bird feeder.

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