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Thanksgiving – the real deal



What are your strongest and best memories of Thanksgiving?  Did your family gather, members driving across country, did they sit around big tables telling stories and laughing?  Did the food get eaten, leftovers put away, then pulled back out again later in the day?  Did your family wrap up what was left, send it home in plastic containers to be warmed up again later in the weekend?

Mine did.

Maybe you remember spending the afternoon watching football games with your family, cheering on favorites, groaning when plays didn’t go your way, munching on turkey sandwiches or stealing another piece of pie.  Maybe your favorite memories are of distant cousins, elderly aunts, grandparents, people you didn’t see all the time.  Maybe your family called far away relatives later in the afternoon for long conversations, catching up with months of news.

Mine did – and I bet a lot of your memories are similar.  The point is that many memories of a best Thanksgiving are filled with family.

Now consider what it would be like if you had to work on Thanksgiving — and not because you were vital to the safety of your community, not because you were needed to fight fire or save lives in a hospital — but because people wanted to shop.  They wanted to shop for stuff that would not change the world, would not further humanity, would not even make others particularly happy.  Just ordinary stuff.

Imagine that you have to work because retailers are looking for a bigger profit.  Profit over family, not a unique concept, but imagine you don’t have a choice, that it’s not even your profit; you’re just a pawn on their balance sheets.

Think about it.  The only way retailers can exploit their workers, force them to work on a day that should be all about family, is if we all rush out to patronize their stores on Thanksgiving day.  We don’t have to do that.  What in the world do we need that is so important that we have to buy it on Thanksgiving?



So here’s a thought.  Join the movement, check out the facebook page.  And how about we don’t go out to shop on Thanksgiving.  How about we don’t let ourselves be manipulated for the retailers good.  How about we don’t let ourselves get caught up in the commercialism of the holiday.  How about instead we look around and see the family members that we love so much, how about we slow down and realize what is important.  How about we sit down to a family dinner.  How about we spend the day in conversation with each other.  How about we value family.

And how about we let everyone do that, even retail workers for one day.  One day filled with family, conversations, laughter, stories, football and pie.

Now that would be the real deal.

Author: dawnkinster

I'm a long time banker having worked in banks since the age of 17. I took a break when I turned 50 and went back to school. I graduated right when the economy took a turn for the worst and after a year of library work found myself unemployed. I was lucky that my previous bank employer wanted me back. So here I am again, a long time banker. Change is hard.

14 thoughts on “Thanksgiving – the real deal

  1. Having stores open on Thanksgiving is awful. I would never shop on Thanksgiving, and rarely even shop on black friday.

    Teachers in my district were given Wednesday off this year (an unusual treat), but “staff” had to come in. I thought that was so inconsiderate and demeaning to all the other people who make sure our schools run flawlessly. So, I was so happy when our superintendent sent out an email this week giving everyone Wednesday off. I know that act spoke volumes to the staff.

    We need to return to a time when people are valued over profits. If CEO’s would value their employees a little more, I know for sure that their profits would increase, because their employees would be more motivated.

    I’ll go check out that facebook page.


  2. Having an idea of your audience, I believe you’re preaching to the choir.


  3. It’s hard for me to believe that very many people — ANY American audience — would want to shop on Thanksgiving. I just don’t see it. The three days following, sure, but Thanksgiving itself? Who has time? And if there is time, then it’s time to relax at home or with family or friends. Yes? Yes!


  4. I am a shopping wuz…….I NEVER shop on holidays…heck I won’t even go out on Fridays because I know that is the busiest day around here. The thought of even being out on Black Friday terrifies me. Even after being here for 10 years we are not into the whole thanksgiving/christmas stuff….when there i just two of us… just seems a lot of effort for …..well nothing really


  5. I’ve shared similar sentiments on FB. Families should be able to be together, and further, no one should be thinking about leaving a nice gathering to go shop.


  6. I would never shop on Thanksgiving.


  7. Yes yes yes!

    Sent from my iPad



  8. Yeah, as another poster said, preaching to the choir! All of my Facebook friends and family are probably sick of my annual anti-consumer posts, especially this year with the gluttony leaching over into the actual holiday on Thursday! Awful!


  9. Yes! So well said. Even if Thanksgiving is not your “thing,” find something to do other than shop. Very few retail employees are able to chose to trade their job for a turkey dinner with their family. When the store says work they have to step up to the counter. My friends 18 year old son will work at Best Buy this year because Thanksgiving dinner requires traveling 80 miles and it is not possible to plan around his work schedule, working is not optional. Walmart has ads running calling Thanksgiving “Black Thursday.” My son wonders when he see’s that ad if Thanksgiving will be around when he has kids.
    We are preaching to choir, but the choirs voice is far reaching and very powerful. So sing loud!
    Thanks Dawn for posting. I will repost on the Facebook page!! You’ve made a difference.


    • Ok what I really meant to say 😀 ^^ My friends son is required to work at Best Buy on Thanksgiving and working Thanksgiving dinner around his schedule is impossible because Thanksgiving is spent with Grandmother and family 80 miles away. It’s a mess. (sorry my brain must have been on mute when I wrote the first comment)


  10. Fabulous post!!! Thank you so much for sharing our page and for joining in the blogger protest!!!! You are making a difference!!! Sharing and passing this on!!!


  11. You r right. Stores shouldnt be open on thanksgiving. Mommy once went black friday shopping to see what everyone makes a fuss about – someone ending up scratching the rear bumper of her car. Mommy wasnt even parked close to the store. People are crazy when it comes to sales.


  12. Thanks, Dawn, for joining the cause — and saying it so well! I, too, won’t be in the stores on Thanksgiving Day!


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