Change Is Hard

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You’d be 85

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Today is Dad’s 85th birthday.  It seems something of a milestone, one that shouldn’t be forgotten, though I can’t imagine him at 85.  I suppose he would have been similar to the Dad I knew at 75, maybe with a few more wrinkles, but the same twinkling eyes, the same stories, the same advice.

Dad and his little sister

Dad and his little sister

I can’t send him a card through snail mail, can’t email him or give him a call.  I can’t even text him, but then  he wouldn’t know what that was anyway.  On the other hand…if he were still here I bet he’d have the latest smart phone because the whole information at your fingertips phenomenon would have fascinate him.  Though I wonder if he would have sprung for the expense of having internet available 24/7.  No, I think maybe instead he’d have been content to be in his boat, watching the sun set, floating in the warm water of his lake.  Sure he’d check his messages when he got back to the house, but I don’t think that smart phone would have been used much on the boat.

In his canoe.

In his canoe.

The little boy who loved the water, grew up on the river, and took my Mom for a canoe ride on their first date, grew up to be a father of four kids who got to grow up on a lake and spent many summers canoeing there and on rivers.  We got to camp in National Parks across the country and see things lots of kids never did.  We got to sit around the dinner table laughing until our stomachs hurt and tears ran down our faces.  We got to ride bikes to town and climb trees in the woods and go water skiing after work.  We got to have a dog named Sam and guinea pigs named Barney and ride the lawnmower and plant a huge garden.  We got to go to college and grow up and live in nice places.

Most of that is due to having a Dad who was responsible and supportive.  And who loved us unconditionally.

So thank you Dad.  And Happy Birthday.

I hope you get this birthday card and know we all love you and miss you.

Forever.

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Author: dawnkinster

I'm a long time banker having worked in banks since the age of 17. I took a break when I turned 50 and went back to school. I graduated right when the economy took a turn for the worst and after a year of library work found myself unemployed. I was lucky that my previous bank employer wanted me back. So here I am again, a long time banker. Change is hard.

17 thoughts on “You’d be 85

  1. Wonderful tribute!

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  2. That was such a nice post. Thats so great that u have pictures of your dad as a boy, especially in the canoe. Thanks fur sharing your pawsome family memories with us.

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  3. he hears you every day and no doubt watches over you too

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  4. Happy Birthday Mr. Dawn’s Dad.

    Unconditional love from a dad is such a gift. Knowing you’ll always have someone rooting for you, no matter, what allows kids to truly blossom.

    Your dad is a treasure.

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  5. Happy Birthday to your Dad. Lovely memories. and pictures.

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  6. I’m sure he hears you and is glowing with the love of his daughter.

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  7. This brings tears to my eyes! My late dad was an Aquarius, too, and I just know he and your dad would have gotten along. Why, I’ll bet they’ve already met and compared notes in Heaven, and they’ve both decided to keep careful watch over their kids here below! Thanks to dads like ours, we enjoyed splendid childhoods — sad that they didn’t live long enough to walk with us into middle age.

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  8. It’s good to hear such wonderful memories. You were indeed blessed.

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  9. I am sure he got your birthday wishes, and is filled with your love.

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  10. What a wonderful way to grow up. Raising children is like growing a really big garden. A lot of hard work, a little bit of luck–a persistent focus on important things. I’m glad you have these memories.

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  11. How do you always manage to make me tear up?
    I guess it’s easy to see where you got your adventurous outdoorsy spirit.
    Happy birthday to your Dad.
    -Dee

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  12. Do you remember when Dad got Mom her first blender? We enjoyed a mini science experiment on how blenders work. I don’t figure many kids got to put all kinds of stuff in their mom’s new blender! What fun we had with stuff.

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  13. Happy birthday to your dad. It’s nice you have so many wonderful memories .

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  14. I miss my grampy ( moms dad) too. Great pictures
    Lily

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  15. What a beautiful, loving tribute. You brought tears to my eyes. Happy Birthday to your dad! And hugs to you.

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  16. This is really beautiful, Dawn. You always write so beautifully about your parents. Thinking of you.

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  17. Lovely Dawn. Happy Birthday to your Dad! What wonderful memories he gave you!

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