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Judy Blume reconnects


Friday I took myself to see Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret. I read the book more than 50 years ago, and I just had to see the movie. Like most people I usually like the books better than the movies that are made based on them.

So you may ask? What about this one?

First let me set the stage. The movie theater I went to is at a mall, and I haven’t been to the mall in a very long time. I used to go each morning and walk around and around, looking at the windows, watching people, hardly ever buying anything. In fact, I don’t remember the last time I bought anything at the mall. Which makes me wonder how they survive.

There’s a Leggo Land and a SeaWorld type thing and even something experiential that involves a pig named Pippa at the mall these days. I don’t get it.

It felt like a parallel universe when I walked inside on a Friday afternoon. Lots of people, most of them with little kids were walking around. It was noisy in a way I don’t remember. Teens wandering, which seemed odd on a school day. But frankly I have no sense of age, so maybe these were young adults, long out of high school.

I was early, so I walked part way around the mall, noting stores that were new, the loss of stores that used to be. OK. Let’s be honest. I walked part way around the mall to use the restroom.

I’m that age now.

Anyway, eventually I made my way back to the theater and stood in a short line to buy tickets. Everyone in line was an older woman. My age, actually.

The young man selling the tickets was slightly overweight, scraggly beard, a bit of a mustache, greasy hair. When I asked for a ticket to Are You There God, he smiled and said he remembered when he was a young girl growing up in the 70s always giggling with his friends about boys.

That set me back a moment.

I didn’t want to be judgmental, or reactionary, or inappropriate so I just smiled and nodded as I waited for my ticket. I took a second glance at him, trying to figure out if he was once a girl. Maybe. But then he started to laugh, and I was startled out of my musings. Just kidding he said, and I smiled and took my ticket and said, well, you never know…and he said no you don’t and I went to find my assigned seat.

And hours later I thought….You’re an idiot, he was much too young to be anything in the 70s! Why would you focus only on the fact he said he was a girl and not see how unreasonable the whole scenario was?

Anyway. The movie.

I thought the movie was marvelous. I don’t know how long it was because I never once checked my watch, which is something I almost always do in movies. I have such a short attention span. I smiled to myself through almost all of it. It was a gentle, sweet, thought provoking movie. I recommend it.

If you’re a woman of a certain age you probably read the book. Even if you haven’t, you should take yourself to this movie.

Tonight I watched a tape of an interview of Judy Blume on the Tonight Show. It’s short….take the time and see what she thinks about her book being made into a movie 50+ years after she wrote it.

I guess growing up in the 70s wasn’t so bad, even if the hairstyles and clothes were. Go see the movie and be reminded.

Author: dawnkinster

I'm a long time banker having worked in banks since the age of 17. I took a break when I turned 50 and went back to school. I graduated right when the economy took a turn for the worst and after a year of library work found myself unemployed. I was lucky that my previous bank employer wanted me back. So here I am again, a long time banker. Change is hard.

10 thoughts on “Judy Blume reconnects

  1. For one reason or another, I missed out on the Judy Blume phase – although I do think my sister did –
    I did enjoy the interview I heard on NPR the other day – as well as other pieces I’ve seen – one being Anderson Cooper speaking with her –
    I so appreciate and understand your description of ‘The Mall’ status – it is pretty amazing what has happened to them –

    Thanks so much for sharing!

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  2. I loved lots of this. The restroom visit for sure. And then the dumb comment by that guy in the ticket booth … why make a joke out of people, whether male or female or people who are searching? I didn’t like that guy doing that.
    And the mall stuff too, Dawn, I was at a mall about 3 years ago that I’d been to many times when I was in my 30’s … the mall on this last visit was bizarre. Ok, yes, I’m “of an age”, but that was bizarre and I wondered why anyone would go there.
    Have to admit, I don’t remember Judy Blume. But I will now go find out.
    Oh, wow, I do remember her! Ok, I’ll go get her books and watch the movie. Thank you! This is terrific.

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  3. I’m too old to have read the book as a young teenager, but my daughters certainly did. I had no idea it had been made into a film. I wonder if it’s been released here?


  4. Last night, I watched the Judy Blume documentary on Prime. Highly recommend it if you have prime. What a pioneer!

    I pulled out my copy of the book last night and it is falling apart at the seams from reading it so many times. Looking forward to seeing the movie. But first, I must re-read my tattered old copy. I’m sure it will be like visiting with old friends.

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  5. Dang! I wish I had a copy of the book now. I, too read it in the 70’s – took it out from our school library (and every other book they had of hers). My sister told me yesterday that I had to watch the Prime documentary and we want to see the movie!

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  6. Somehow I missed this book when growing up in the 70s. Time to give it a read (finally) AND see the movie!


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  7. What fun! I definitely remember the book and have the movie on my list. 🙂

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  8. I could so relate to this post! I went to the MOA this past Friday (as you know) and your words resonated with how I felt while I was there. And, the bathroom was the target for me as well! 🤣😂😊 I read that book too – it was the year that my little rural school had a parent’s meeting to ban it from the library. Of course, that meant, I should find a way to read it. And I did! I thought it should be a classic at the time. 😂 I’ll have to look to see if it’s in the theaters here and take a friend or two with me to see it. Thanks for sharing your take on it!!


  9. It makes me truly sad how malls have changed over the years. They used to be such FUN! Now, like you, I wonder how they stay in business. I somehow missed Judy Blume’s big book (though her name sounds familiar, probably from other stuff she’s written).


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