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Dad and I thank you

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Many of you know the story about my dad and the semi-truck. I wish I could say I wrote a kids’ book about a daddy driving a big truck.

Dad and his baby sister.

But that’s not the way it went.

In reality my dad was driving to the Atlanta airport December 23, 2004, a plane ticket in his shirt pocket, heading north to spend Christmas with his family.

He loved water his entire life.

Around 6 a.m. with an hour to go, he was hit from behind by a semi-truck who’s driver didn’t notice all the traffic slowing in front of him.

A college man.

Dad never had a chance.

The semi driver said he fell asleep after driving all night, trying to get a load of electronics to Atlanta for Christmas sales. His dispatcher had enticed him to make a deadline in Atlanta in order to have another truck ready for him to drive to Florida, getting him home to his family for Christmas.

A married man.

My dad didn’t get to spend Christmas with his family. The driver didn’t get to spend Christmas with his family either, he spent it in jail. My siblings and I spent Christmas in shock, sitting in dad’s house, looking at the Christmas tree he’d put up before he left.

Trying to make sense of it all.

A new father.

And in the following months we found the Truck Safety Coalition, made up of CRASH, (Citizens for Reliable and Safe Highways), and PATT (Parents Against Tired Truckers). It’s a group of people who have had similar experiences with large commercial trucks.

A dad and his girls.

Sons, daughters, grandkids, parents, friends, spouses, nobody is immune, we all travel our roads alongside big trucks. TSC supports survivors and victims’ families. It educates policy makers on common sense changes that need to be made to make us all, truck drivers included, safer.

A family man.

But we can’t do any of it without financial support. We’re a 501c3 nonprofit. We struggle, as do many groups, to fund the activities that give families hope. Giving Tuesday is one of our biggest fundraising days.

This year it’s on December 3rd.

Everybody growing up.

And, this year, we’re trying something a bit different. In addition to using the Facebook platform, we’re asking folks to donate directly to us. Here’s the link to my personal fundraising page: https://secure.qgiv.com/event/trucksafetycoalitionpeertopeer/account/1899034/. Give it a click and see dad’s story and my progress toward my goal.

You don’t have to wait until December 3rd to donate. We’re starting our campaign right now. In fact you could be my very first donor!

Always interested, always busy.

I said it on Facebook the other evening; I fully believe that Dad says thank you to everyone that has supported me and my siblings all these twenty years. We needed you and you were there. And along the way I’ve met even more supportive people. You’ve all helped me help TSC to continue the work that helped us in our worst moments.

Retired.

The circle of support continues. Round and round, as you helped us, we are supporting the new families who keep on coming. Truck crashes continue, families are irreversibly changed, we provide support, and in time, they grow and get stronger and provide support for the next family.

More than 5,000 people die in commercial truck crashes each year. More than 100,000 people are injured. There are so many families.

We are working hard to help as many families as we can, and it all begins with your support. So thank you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, from the bottom of my dad’s heart.

At my wedding.

Author: dawnkinster

I'm a long time banker having worked in banks since the age of 17. I took a break when I turned 50 and went back to school. I graduated right when the economy took a turn for the worst and after a year of library work found myself unemployed. I was lucky that my previous bank employer wanted me back. So here I am again, a long time banker. Change is hard.

15 thoughts on “Dad and I thank you

  1. I love that you tirelessly continue working on this campaign. There is nothing like having been there to give you the energy to keep up the fight.

    It’s stories like yours that truly bring to the fore this type of danger on the roads.

    Keep up the good fight!

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  2. Such a sad story repeated too many times by too many families. Great that you keep fighting for what is right. I hope you reach your goal 🙂

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  3. As I have for years, I will continue to contribute to the national fund. Many years ago, after watching a semi-truck ahead of me on the freeway take an off-ramp at full speed and smash over the car in front of him, killing the family in that car, it seems a small thing that I can do. I did pull over and run over to the accident, the semi driver was on the ground vomiting, I held him as he cried and said “I fell asleep, I fell asleep, I fell asleep”. I cried too. The cops came, no one took my name. It’s not about me. It’s about laws that are all about trucking profits, and not about safety. Bless you Dawn, and your family, and your Dad.

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    • Thank you for your support, Ann! I remember you telling me that story. It was horrific for him as well as the family. And for you. Which national fund do you support? I always like to know about the other groups working on these issues.

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  4. What a tragedy, Dawn! I really had no idea, and I’m so sorry. Bless you for the fund raising. It’s a wonderful thing to do.

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  5. On Wednesday night, a local news guy posted a photo of a very long line of semis parked along a service road near our airport. He said he sees them there often, parked for the night, sleeping. His post was about thanking truck drivers for working hard for us, even on Thanksgiving. When I saw the photo, I thought, “Good, I’m glad they are there getting some rest, and staying off the road on such a busy travel day.”

    Thank you Dawn for making me aware of the dangers and the faulty system that puts all of us at risk.

    Since the only certainty we have in life is this moment, I’m off to make my donation now.

    Sending love and gratitude to your family for all you do. ❤

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    • Thank you Sara. Yes, I see the long lines of trucks with drivers resting on off ramps and along the sides of service roads. It’s partly because there are not enough parking spaces for them at rest stops or weigh stations. There’s been talk the last few years about trying to put together a bill to provide for more safe parking for them. That may end up being what we’ll work on for the next few years. It should be bipartisan. Who would object to more safe parking for truck drivers?

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  6. I just saw where there was a huge pileup in southwest Michigan due to the lake effect snow. I don’t know how many people were hurt (or killed), but it looked bad. We should’ve been smarter decades ago and beefed up our railroads so those huge semis wouldn’t be necessary on our roads. I tear up every time I read about your poor dad … leaving behind a wife and four little kids. Keep preaching, Dawn!

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    • I heard something about that too. White out over there of lake effect snow. They get a lot of snow. Once upon a time we actually were funded in part by the RR, until it became a big problem because the ATA (American Trucking Association, the big truck companies) black listed us because they felt we were just a tool of the RR. So we lost that funding. This was years before my dad was killed 20 years ago. Now we have to get funding by 20s and 30s from individual people, most of whom have had personal experience with the trucking industry by way of dead or injured family members. The ATA still hates us because we’re always trying to get more regulations on them.

      My dad was killed in Dec of 2004. All four of us kids were adults, married, living on our own. Mom had died of an aneurism 5 mos before he was killed. So the ‘kids” had to figure out how to move on without them, both gone unexpectedly and too soon, each was 75.

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      • I didn’t realize any of this, Dawn. Thank you for educating me. It seems like a very worthwhile cause, but it’s a crying shame you can’t get real funding. Sleepy truckers have no business being on the road! Regardless of how old you “kids” were when your parents died, such deaths of close loved ones always hit hard. Hugs to you, my friend!

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