Change Is Hard

…but change is certain.


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When is an auto show not an auto show?

Detroit Auto Show Jan 2010 003 Today we picked up husband’s uncle and  headed down to Detroit to wander the North American Auto Show.  We haven’t been in years.  After driving around looking for parking we finally parked along the waterfront in a ramp next door to General Motors’ Headquarters.  We were about 4 long blocks away from Cobo Hall which housed the auto show.  It was windy.  And really cold.  But whatever.  We zipped up our jackets and headed out.  About a block into our trek we noticed lots of people walking toward us.  Not surprising, it was already 2:30 in the afternoon, people would likely be finished with the show and heading back to their cars.  Then a young man asked us if we were going to the Auto Show.  Husband and I ignored him, figuring he wanted to sell us something.  Uncle responded yes we were.  “Well don’t bother walking all the way down there, it’s closed because there’s a fire.”  Really.  The next guy coming toward us is on his phone saying something about “it won’t open back up till 4:30, lots of smoke.”  Great.

We turned around and spent an hour or so wandering around the Renaissance Center, world headquarters to General Motors.  They had their own mini auto show in their lobby, with all of the vehicles they make displayed.  That was fun.    The picture at the top is just inside the front door looking up through the glass and out at the city.

Detroit Auto Show Jan 2010 019 Then we decided to take the People Mover around town and over to Greektown for something to eat.  And to waste some more time until we could attempt to get into the auto show.  We ate at a Greek restaurant of course, they had lamb, I had spinach pie and vegetables.  Yum!  We didn’t do much walking around as the wind was whistling and it was just so cold.    At 5 we took the People Mover back around to Cobo Hall and found ourselves in the midst of thousands of people milling around.  The doors to the show weren’t open yet, even at 5:30.

So we decided to head back home.  We’re going to get up early tomorrow, pick the uncle back up and head down to try again.  Maybe it will work out.  Maybe it will be another day of adventure.  Just never know.


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Agility update

Katie, her Daddy and I went to our second beginning agility class tonight.  Katie has been wound up like a top all day and I didn’t have high expectations for class.  I wasn’t wrong, at least at first.  They started out with the dogwalk and she was having none of that.  There were only three of in the class at first, and three instructors, so one of them took us aside and wanted to work with her on the wobble board.

This is when I had a memory flash of Dianna’s blog where she said she should have listened to herself rather than let an instructor tell her what to make Miley do on the table.  I know that the wobble board was what got Katie totally freaked out last week.  So when the instructor tonight suggested we use it to get Katie desensitized to the dogwalk I said NO.  I told her it had caused Katie to shut down last week.  So the very nice instructor went and got a blue board that sat flat on the floor and a lower table, and I worked with Katie to first touch and then get on those.  It took awhile and a lot of chicken, but eventually she would sit on the blue board, then on the low table.  By the end of the class she’d jump on the taller table.

She never did walk the dogwalk, but she’ll put her front feet on the yellow part.  And she’ll do the same for the A-frame.   She just won’t put her back feet on anything!   The teeter?  Well, she’ll quickly put ONE paw on it and then take it right back off then look to me for a treat.  She’s so funny!  I guess she’s right, she did touch it! LOL!

They also introduced a longer tunnel, the tire and the chute.  She loves tunnel and jumps and only balked at the tire a few times.  I think that was more me than her, she wasn’t always sure where she was supposed to jump with it.  I was worried that she wouldn’t do the chute, but she was on a roll running through stuff, so even when they dropped the chute on her she ran through.  I don’t think she’s ready to just charge through it without someone holding it open yet, but she sure didn’t show any fear.

In fact, I think she had a blast today.  We made sure to make it all fun and not force her to do anything.  We’re going to be working on our board in the driveway.  This past week I got her to walk it a couple times, mostly though she’d rather avoid it.  I did use Marie’s suggestion with the board that if she touched it I threw the treat away from the board to alleviate stress.  She doesn’t seem as afraid of it as she used to be.   If I can get her to run it regularly this week I’ll raise it up a tiny bit see how that goes.

Tomorrow is our rally class.  I used obedience/rally stuff tonight to warm Katie up and she was spot on.  Maybe tomorrow will be a great class too!  After that husband and I are going to the North American Auto Show.  We haven’t been in years.  Should be fun.

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Come take a mall walk with me

funky art 055 Almost every morning I’ve been going up to the mall to walk.  It’s mostly me and a bunch of old people –  at least that’s the way it seemed when I first started walking.  But lately I’ve been noticing individual “regulars” that are walking  just about every day.  It’s somewhat like it used to be when I ran at a local park every Saturday morning.  You’d see a lot of the same people and it got so you’d raise a hand in greeting and mutter a quick “Morning!” to them as you passed each other.

At the mall there’s not so much greeting going on, but today there were a few people that locked eyes and nodded, and even a couple that uttered morning back when I offered it.  So maybe I’ve become a regular too.  As long as I’m not one of the old ones, that’s OK.

Most mornings I get to the mall early enough to get 2 or 3 miles (laps) in before all the stores open.  I mark my progress by passing the Rain Forest Cafe which has water falls, monkeys, elephants and butterflies moving in animation along the outside walls when it’s open.  Most mornings I get 2 or 3 of my 4 laps finished before they start moving.  Today I arrive a bit early and my goal is to get all 4 of my laps done before the crocodile begins to roar and the waterfalls start sending up their morning fog.

So here’s some of the people I see up there nearly every morning:

A tiny Asian woman with her walker.  Always dressed beautifully, her oxygen tank sitting on the seat of her walker, she wheels around the 1 mile loop surprisingly quickly, head held high.  No discernible limp mars her gait.  Without the oxygen tank to slow her down I bet she’d be a speed demon with that walker.

A couple that always walks hand in hand; he wears a leather Indiana Jones hat and a long white beard.  They don’t saunter exactly but they’re in no hurry either.  They’re probably my age, so they’re not old.  But  also not so young.  It’s nice to see the affection between them.

The older man with the obvious side effects of having had a stroke; one leg swings wide and slowly, one arm dangles uselessly at his side.  He isn’t moving fast.  But he’s moving.  He doesn’t look at anyone, but he makes it around the “track.”  More than once.  Every day.

The middle aged black man that walks quickly holding a phone to his ear the entire time, conducting an animated conversation all the way around…and around…and around.  Every single morning he’s on that phone and I wonder if it’s the same person each day…I wonder if  it’s some sort of illicit affair that causes him to only be able to talk when he’s away from home on his walk.  I realize I’m starting to write whole stories about these people that I see every day but have never met.

A couple of women, probably my age, maybe slightly older.  One is heavier, the other is very slim.  They always walk just a bit faster than me.  Sometime during the morning they will pass me and I am never able to catch up to them again.  They talk nonstop about family and relationships and other people.  Interesting conversation to listen to.  In road races I used to run behind pairs of people talking and shamelessly eavesdrop to take my mind off of the pain of running.  I’d do the same at the mall but I can’t keep up!

The younger woman in shorts and a Tshirt wearing an Ipod even though there is great walking music playing overhead.  She is swinging her arms and moving right along.  If I were jogging I would still be slower than her.  She is in great shape and I remember evaluating female runners in the same manner I’m watching her now.  Wondering if she got this way by walking, or is just naturally lucky.  Wondering if I should move along a bit faster.

The pairs of young mothers pushing baby carriages with their youngsters asleep.  The mothers are talking and walking quickly, as if they need to get as much adult conversation in as quickly as possible before they head back to their children filled days.  The mothers all look so young, pony tails swept up, no makeup, big wedding/engagement rings on their hands.  Women of  leisure in the sense they aren’t working, but women in reality who have no leisure time at all.

The young man in a wheelchair going around and around, listening to his own Ipod.  Working out his shoulders and arms I suppose.  He doesn’t have one of those modern efficient wheelchairs and it looks a lot like work.  But then, my own feet are hurting by mile 3 so I guess if we do it right, we’re all doing a lot of work.  He smiles at me each time we meet, one of the few that acknowledges me.

So that’s a quick picture of my walk at the mall.  I’ve got to speed up now,  I want to finish before that crocodile wakes up.


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A challenge accepted

Frozen frost walk Jan 17 2009 016 I woke expecting to write about a wonderful concert I attended last night in Ann Arbor.  And I  still plan to write that blog.  But the combination of another blogger’s challenge to take a walk with a camera and find those beautiful things generally overlooked along with this morning’s beautiful frozen fog made me eager to head outside.  So this morning instead of walking my four miles at the mall, I walked “around the block” here at home, a hilly four miles through woods and wetlands with endless possibilities for creative photography.

You can read about the challenge and enjoy my blogger friend’s walks in the Upper Peninsula here:  http://upwoods.wordpress.com/

As it turns out the challenge for me was to limit myself to showing you only six photos.  She challenged us to take a walk around the block; I did and ended up with 120 photos!  I’m trying my best to show you a little bit of everything in the following six.   (I cheated somewhat by not counting the initial picture of tree along the side of the road that someone had decorated with a few red ornaments and a red star.  Out in the middle of nowhere.)

The fog froze in tiny jagged shards of ice that clings along every twig and weed.  I was wishing that I had a SRL digital camera so that I could show you how fascinating it was.  But my little point and shoot did a pretty good job.  I didn’t take my reading glasses along, so I had no idea what I had actually captured until I downloaded at home.

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It was tempting to focus on the minutia everywhere, to see all the tiny artwork that had been sculpted overnight.  But the bigger picture was beautiful as well.

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Sometimes I thought that I should have been doing black and white photos.  But there were subtle colors everywhere.

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Still, some of the most interesting sights were those small places that told a story.  Like this pile of broken nut shells at the base of a tree.  Some squirrel has cleaned house!

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And the sad art in the trunk of a dead ash tree, the paths of the ash borer that killed most of the ash trees in our state.

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And finally on my way back through town a little bit of civilization; the woodshed in someone’s backyard.  Complete with piles of wood inside.

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I have so many other interesting photos, but I accept the challenge of showing you just six.  I wish I could also share with you the sounds and smells along the way.   The scent of a skunk nearby, the woodsmoke from the chimneys of the homes I passed.  The sounds of a cardinal high in a tree, the chickadee chirping nearby, crows flying high calling to each other.  And the church bells, ringing as I came down from the high hills to walk across the wetlands just at the edge of town.

It was a wonderful walk, and I thank my UP blogger friend for challenging me to get outside and walk.  Such a gift.

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Katie says it's a whole new world

We’re still enforcing the “OFF!” for the furniture, including the bed.  It’s very hard for us, harder for me than for my husband.  Sometimes we’re sitting on the sofa doing something and don’t even NOTICE when she jumps up and sits down next to us.  Of course the sooner we say “OFF!” the better, but once in awhile one of us notices the other person sitting on the sofa or asleep in bed with Katie curled right up against the totally unconscious person.  I have to say she’s not stupid!  She’ll try and if she gets an inch she figures she’s in like flyn.  NOT!  Mostly though she’s trying really hard to be good, though you can see she really wants to be next to us.

And to keep her busy…we’re in two classes this training session!  Last Thursday husband and I took her back to the rally class.  That’s 30 minutes of obedience and 30 minutes doing rally.  Katie kind of enjoys this because she understands what’s expected of her.  Though she HATES being put in a crate so that I can walk the rally course prior to us trying to execute it.  She backs right up if she figures out we’re heading over to the crates.  Here’s a picture of little Katie in a huge crate next to a huge dog in a middle sized crate.  The big dog next to her LOVES shelties, but Katie isn’t so sure she wants to initiate a friendship!

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Yesterday Katie, husband and I went to a beginning agility class.  There were only 6 dogs in this class so that was nice.  Katie loves to jump and run through the tunnel.  But she continued her fear of the dogwalk.  Sometimes I could get her to jump back on and walk down the other side, but as the class continued and we tried again she balked and refused to do anything whatsoever with the dog walk.   As for the teeter?  No way no how.   By the time we got to the teeter she wouldn’t go anywhere near it.  I’m sure it looked a lot like a dogwalk.  The other two dogs in my group (a poodle and a miniature aussie) of course had no trouble with anything.

This morning Katie and I went back to our rally class.  The agility stuff was still set up in a ring, and as we were early to rally we went over there so she could sniff it.  My rally instructor came out of the bathroom and stopped by to see what we were doing.  I told her about the dogwalk fear and she said let’s try!  She allowed me to put Katie on the top of the dog walk and as she spotted one side, I walked the other so Katie couldn’t jump off.  Katie walked down the ramp just fine.  But she was still scared to walk onto it herself.  Wednesday night the agility instructor wouldn’t let me pick up Katie and put her on anything.  Ah well.  We’ll see how it all works again next Wednesday night.  Husband dug out the plank I was using last summer and says he’ll put it up on a couple of concrete blocks so Katie and I can practice walking just slightly above ground on a board.  Maybe that will help!

Meanwhile, I took a picture today of Katie on the table.  She wouldn’t stay on it Wednesday night (she’s not allowed on furniture at home you know!) but she stayed on it today for me.  Such a girl.  And a picture of her sitting next to the dreaded dogwalk.  She looks happy, but I think it’s an act!

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Katie 2229Today in rally she was about perfect.  I got a shot of her in the line of other dogs doing her sits/downs.  She never moved, even though she was right at the end next to a fabric wall behind which were three owners who were practicing open sits/downs and had “left the room.”  They were talking quite loudly and she kept looking over that way but she never broke.  Even when one of them sneezed!!  And then someone knocked over a CHAIR for heavens sake!  She flinched but didn’t move.  I’m very proud of her for that.

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We’re also working on “Paw” where I ask for her left hand.  She’s obviously a right handed dog as she wants to offer “Shake.”  But sometimes she will raise her left paw fractionally and she almost always shifts her weight over to her right foot when I ask for PAW!  So that’s some progress.

Sweet girl.

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Haiti

I feel an extra emotional connection while I watch news footage of the massive 7.0 earthquake in Haiti.  It doesn’t look like many structures survived, and there are likely thousands dead.  The extra little tug I feel is caused by the fact that the truck driver that killed Dad in 2004 was from Haiti.  He had been in the US only a couple of years.  Likely he has family still in Haiti.

I only saw him once; at his only court appearance.  For whatever reason, killing someone with a semi is only a misdemeanor.  So when we went into a Georgia court to find out how he was going to plead we were dismayed to find ourselves in a courtroom filled with people there for nonpayment of child support, under age drinking and one guy who had burned tires in his yard without a permit.  Then there was us.  We were the only people there dressed in suits, other than one man and his attorney.  We knew instantly that the well dressed man nervously sitting with an obvious attorney was “our” driver.  Turns out he had been advised to plead “no contest” which doesn’t admit guilt but also meant he didn’t have to go to trial.  I think his attorney had worked out a deal with the Prosecutor that if he plead no contest he’d get off with probation.  They didn’t count on our family showing up from all over the country and providing the judge with heartfelt impact statements.

We had a wonderful judge that allowed us to make our impassioned statement and who took the time to silently read statements we had sent to the Prosecutor previously.  I remember  being in that courtroom, my brother standing beside our driver reading the family’s statement of grief and loss.  I remember the driver rocking back and forth on his toes not looking at us.  I remember the noisy courtroom hushing as people realized what we were talking about.  I remember the stifled sound of  sobs from some women, people we didn’t know, when my brother said that my sister couldn’t listen to Christmas music without crying anymore.  I remember a court officer, guarding the back door, wiping his eyes.

We wanted some jail time, to make the point that killing someone wasn’t just the cost of doing business, and the judge gave the driver the most she could, 30 days.  We were grateful.  The driver’s attorney protested loudly, saying that people fell asleep driving all the time.  The judge responded with a quote from our impact statement; “We expect more from professional drivers.”  The driver was escorted out and it was done.

The judge asked for a recess, and we all started to move out of the room.  Along the way people we didn’t know and would never meet again stood up, offered their hands and condolences.  It took some time to get out of the room.  Out in the hall I felt a bit of a letdown as I moved toward the exit.  Then I realized none of my family was with me, and I turned back to find them.  They were standing in a clump in the middle of the hall…with the judge, still in her robes.  She had come out to tell us she was sorry.  She was sorry about our loss, and she was sorry she couldn’t have done more.  She didn’t understand, you see, that we were thrilled with her ruling.  We had been warned that he would likely get off with probation and that we would probably be disappointed in the process.  Instead she did just as we asked, and we thanked her for that.  She had tears in her eyes.  So did we.

The driver  risked being deported back to Haiti by pleading no contest to a misdemeanor.  I have no idea if he ended up being sent back but I hope not.  It has always been my hope that he was able to stay and raise his two children here, that he turned out to be as fine a dad as ours was, that he used the lessons he learned from this experience to raise wonderful, contributing children. That in his own way he makes the world a better place  just like Dad made the world a better place.

So as I watch the footage of Haiti I hope that he and his family are not there.  I hope they are safe in Florida and that he has found peace.  But I know that very likely someone he loves has died a horrible violent death and that even if he is not there himself  he now knows the intesne grief that sudden death brings to survivors.  I hope he can cope, I hope he has the support we had.  And still have.

I wish him and his family well.


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Going to the library can result in a flu shot. Really.

Actually I have two stories about going to the library and getting a flu shot.  Imagine that!  The first was earlier in the fall when I planned on stopping at the county health department to get my flu shot while heading over to a library to drop off an employment application.  I found the health department after much driving around the huge county complex while muttering to myself about the lack of directional signs.  I traipsed up to the door only to find a sign that said “Sorry, no flu shots today, please check our website for next available flu shot dates.”  This really ticked me off because I had checked their website about an hour before I left the house.

So anyway.  I continued my trip out to the library to drop off the resume, employment application, cover letter and all.  And guess what?  There in the library’s community room was a lonely nurse giving  flu shots!  She had 15 more minutes till the end of  the program and nothing to do.  So I dropped off the employment paperwork and got my flu shot all at the same location!  Go figure.

Today, husband and I were somewhat bored.  So I suggested we go to our local library.  He sat there reading the paper and I looked for books.  When we were ready to go he said that he had read the county health department was doing the H1N1 shots for FREE and they were open today till 8!  Well!  We drove right over there and were the only ones in line.  Success!

Just goes to show what an integral part of community life public libraries really are!  I sure hope I get to work in one again soon.

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Update (smile)

So after I made Katie get off the bed (see initial post below) she sulked off and I went  back to sleep.  About 40 minutes later husband woke up and asked where Katie was.  I said I didn’t know, she hated me and had wandered off mad.  He got up, searched all over the house and couldn’t find her.  When he came back to the bedroom he happened to glance over at the crate that she hasn’t used in over a year.

There she was, curled up in her crate!  And even odder, she didn’t get up and follow him around while he looked all over the house for her!  Cause she’s ticked off!  And maybe because her crate is her safe place.  Which isn’t a bad thing at all.

Silly girl!  (image is from her puppyhood.  Long, long ago)

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Getting dressed

I started laughing this morning as Katie and I were getting ready to go outside to do her business.  All she had to do was get the leash clicked on her collar.  I, on the other hand, put on boots, my husband’s double heavy work coat, ear muffs, heavy gloves, pulled the hood up and considered whether or not I needed a scarf.

She waited somewhat patiently, staring intently at the closed door.  Finally I was ready for our 5 minute trek into the 7 degree morning and we ventured out.

She did her job in a minute or two and turned to come back inside, where I unclicked her leash and she dashed off.  I, meanwhile, shed the boots, earmuffs, gloves, heavy jacket and sighed.  She was already on the bed where she wasn’t supposed to be.

OFF!

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