Change Is Hard

…but change is certain.


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60th wedding aniversary

Cutting the cake in Grandma Braun’s dining room.

Today would be our parents’ 60th wedding anniversary.

Sixty years seems, in theory, like a very long time.  Yet it seems to have sped in the blink of an eye.    They only got 52 years together here on earth, but I know they are celebrating together now.

All of us – 1974

Fifty-two years was good but not enough.  I wish we were all getting together to celebrate down on the lake.  Cake, flowers, cards, none of that matters.  It would just be good to all be together again.

Yes it would.


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97 years young

We attended a surprise birthday party for husband’s aunt Saturday.  Many people from her building and her family showed up at a local restaurant to help her celebrate.

Yes, she was surprised.

The birthday girl.

There was Chinese food, good conversation, family updates, smiles and hugs.

And cake.  Decorated in pink of course.  It’s her favorite color.

No room for 97 candles.

It was a good day.


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Music filled Saturday with some football too.

Heading to ‘The Big House.’

We had such a great day!  Saturday afternoon we parked near the University of Michigan’s Hill Auditorium, then walked thirty minutes south, enjoying the sunshine, the students partying in the street, the crowds, the tailgaters, to the stadium where we sat in a VIP box, guests of the School of Education, to watch Michigan beat Massachusetts.

I’ve never been in a VIP box before.  Let me tell you, that’s the way to watch football!  Of course I don’t really get football, though I do enjoy a good long run down the field.  Don’t tell anyone, but I don’t really care which team passes long or runs, it’s just fun to watch.

For me, a college football game is all about the band.  Yes, the band; that group of kids who puts everything they’ve got into providing entertainment and pumping up the crowd.

The band over on the other side kept us in the game.

While other people were chatting before the game I was watching the pregame show.  While others went to the restroom at halftime I was watching the band.  While others were cheering and booing ref calls I was watching the band across the way in the stand as they chanted, shouted, danced and blew their lips out creating excitement.  Yep.  Love football…because of the band.

The “M” marches toward the sideline.

In the middle of the fourth quarter we had to leave the game to walk the 30 minutes back up to the main campus.  We had symphony tickets.   It was the opening night of this year’s season and the Ann Arbor symphony was playing Beethoven.

Hill Auditorium.

As I settled into my seat I jokingly told my Aunt that it would probably be inappropriate to stand up, pump my fist in the air and shout “GO BLUE!” in the middle of Symphony No. 9…right? She thought probably it would not be good.  Apparently I was not the only one feeling the dichotomy of experiences that day, as during the introduction remarks the speaker actually commented on how cool it was to watch a football game then walk across town to hear a symphony.  Then he yelled  “GO BLUE!”  And the audience applauded in response.

The program opened with the National Anthem, the second time I’d heard it that day.  It was played by the full orchestra and sung loud and clear by the audience.  Then most of the orchestra stood up and left, stage left.

The symphony played Twelve Contradances next.  Twelve short pieces,played by a smaller, mostly string subset of the full orchestra.   Each movement is a slightly different version of music to keep your toes tapping..composed in 1802.  As I was listening I noticed a man sitting a couple of rows back from the conductor.  He was sitting quietly, not moving, no instrument that I could see, hands folded in his lap.  I thought maybe he had played with the full orchestra and just forgot to leave with the rest of them.    Then in movement #8 he picked up a tambourine and played it expertly till the end of the movement.  When movement #9 began he again sat, stoically, hands folded in his lap for the rest of the piece.

Ah! Perfido, Op. 65 was sung by  soprano Laura Aikin who has a beautiful and powerful voice.   The music was written to the verse of a poem written by Pietro Metastasio and was all about cruel love.

Symphony and choirs

The last half of the program was Beethoven’s Symphony #9,  Choral, or most of us think of it, Ode to Joy.  It was played by the full orchestra, and sung (in the 4th movement) by 4 soloists and a huge choir.

The first movement was full and lush, my favorite way to listen to a symphony.  The second movement was fun and fast with some amazing oboe, french horn, bassoon and tympani work.  The third movement was a sweet chorale and I was beginning to struggle to keep my eyes open.

All that was overshadowed by the drama of the fourth movement.   It began with notes you’ve all heard in commercials.  Then moved to the cellos and basses, wonderful seamless building of the familiar Ode to Joy melody, followed with the tune repeated in the violas and then the gentle violins.  By now we were all humming along as the sound built and built, bigger, more and more lush until the choir stood up and the sound became wonderfully overwhelming.

The crowd was on their feet before the last note hit the ceiling, cheering and applauding.  Sort of like at football.  We clapped till our hands ached.  The artists on stage grinned like kids.

Yes our day was full.  Full of joy.


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Stary PS

The TV weather people said we have fog this morning, but out with the dog just moments ago the stars were bright.  And as I was looking at Orion’s belt and talking to Mom a huge and gorgeous shooting star shot across the sky from north to south.  It looked like it was in two pieces.  I think.  Or maybe my startled eye was just slow and there was only one and the memory of where the one had been a moment before.

One or two, I’m sure it was just Mom sending out a greeting to Katie and me.


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Stary anniversary

Some of you know that when I’m out with the dog and the stars are hanging bright I look to the sky for my Mom and Dad.  For me Dad is the big dipper, Mom is Orion’s belt.  Sometimes during the year they are both there in the sky together, Dad to the north, Mom to the south.  But during the summer months Orion’s constellation swings too far south for me to see, and sometimes I can’t see the big dipper either.

I smiled this morning when Katie and I went out in the predawn hours and I saw  both constellations shining down on us.  I was glad to see them together again; it was totally appropriate.  Today is their fifty-ninth wedding anniversary.

Happy anniversary.  I miss you.

 


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Great weekend

Saturday husband and I took his Aunt V out to eat for her 96th birthday.  She hasn’t been out of her apartment other than for doctor appointments since she came home from the hospital in early summer.   She was all dressed up and ready to go when we went up to collect her from her apartment.  She’s not walking very well and we had to rest a few times on the way down to the lobby and the waiting car.  But she made it and was very glad to get out into the fresh air.  It was a beautiful day, sunny and warm.  The roses out in front of her building were in full bloom – just for her.

We took her to a small town about 30 minutes away, so she could enjoy the drive.  Some of the trees are beginning to turn, the sky was blue and filled with big white puffy clouds.  The promised rain never materialized.

After dinner husband told her it was too nice a day to head back home, so we went for a drive.  After more than an hour of driving through the country she asked where we were.   We were nearing water and he told her we were in Mackinac City.  “Really?” she asked!  He laughed and said no…then she started recognizing some things, like the Black River where she and her husband once moored their boat, an old hotel where they used to stay.  We were in Port Huron, on the eastern shore of Michigan.

More than sixty years ago, as a young wife, she and her husband used to boat from Saginaw down to Port Huron on weekends.  She hadn’t been back in many years.  Amazingly she recognized quite a bit of the town.  We sat at the waterfront and watched boats go by, including a very large ore boat which nimbly slid under the bridge and past us surprisingly fast.

I fell in love with the Great Lakes all over again.

We all had a great time.  I’m pretty sure she slept well last night.

Then this morning I met a friend of mine who is in town for a family wedding.  She and I used to run together before she moved far away back in 1996.  We haven’t seen each other in 13 years, but it was as if we’d never been apart, even though we haven’t been in touch much beyond the annual Christmas card all these years.

We went back to the neighborhood where I used to live and where we used to run a couple times a week after work.  As we walked the old route, noticing changes in the houses and gardens, we talked and talked, just like we used to do when we ran.  We talked about the way things used to be, the things that have happened in our lives, the way things are today.  We both got a bit teary-eyed over losses in each of our lives, we voiced regrets and triumphs and hopes.  We passed the house I used to own and commented that it was still a great neighborhood.

After our walk we went out to breakfast and talked and talked.  Catching up on so much takes some time!  We weren’t finished talking when we were finished eating, so we went for another walk through an old neighborhood behind the restaurant.  Another couple of miles under our belt and I don’t think we were finished talking yet, but we both had other things we needed to do.

Sadly we said goodbye and promised that it would not be 13 years before we saw each other again.  In fact we just might run the big race together again next August.   The first time either of us ran the 10 mile race was together.  It’s probably been 20 years but we think, just maybe, that we can do it again.

I hope so.  It will give us some time to talk.  Because we didn’t discuss nearly everything we have to say!  Thanks P.  I know you’re reading this.  It was so good to see you again.  I miss you already.

Safe trip home.


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Happy birthday brother!

Today is one of my brothers’ birthday.  Ten years ago his birthday was overshadowed by tragic events.  Though he lives in a southern state, he was in NYC on that day for a meeting.  Surreal.

Today, amid all the remembrances of a terrible day I want to make sure he knows I’m thinking of a pretty cool day – the day he joined the family!

So Happy Birthday Brother!  It was so good to spend last weekend with you and everyone.  Wish we could spend today together too!

Love,

Big Sis.