Change Is Hard

…but change is certain.


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Unwinding rant

The latest ‘late winter storm’ is beginning today.  Sleet stung the windows of my office this afternoon and then it turned to snow right at 5 p.m.  Apparently everyone (including me) stood up and left our office and all the surrounding offices at the same time.  It took me over 10 minutes to leave the parking lot, and another 15 to make it the two blocks to the freeway.

Once there it wasn’t much better.  We cruised along at 15 mph – when we were moving.  But I’m OK with that; as long as everyone is moving at the same slow speed we’re all relatively safe.  So now I’m home and I’m going to unwind by talking to you.

Long commute

Long commute

Here’s something I’ve been thinking about.  It seems like many people at work are no longer focused on work.  When I was a kid and had appendicitis (though to be fair they didn’t know it was that) in junior high they wouldn’t call my dad at work after my mom didn’t answer the home phone, because I guess, it would not have occurred to us to bother someone at work.  Especially the dad. But these days I hear phone conversations all around me, people controlling from work every tiny aspect of their family’s lives.  From the grandmother that gets calls from her grown daughters every single morning and often later in the day to discuss the grandchildren’s activities, health, tempers and homework, to the woman on the other side of the wall who has just moved and apparently needs to instruct her husband (I assume a grown man) how to order cable and change the utility bills into their name,who provides detailed instructions to call the paint contractors, the carpet cleaners, the dumpster guy.

Roads get worse

Roads get worse

Is it just the age of cell phones that causes this?  Or is my generation full of helicopter parents who have turned into helicopter grandparents and helicopter spouses?  Is being in constant contact with everyone a good thing?  Or would we live just as productive and fulfilled lives if everyone didn’t feel it imperative to update us all on every single thing that occurs during an entire workday?  Would grown children grow up if they had to make a decision or two on their own?  Would their children be better off if they observed their parents making decisions without going to Grandma?   Or is it a good thing the parents have support at all times of the day and, I assume, the night?  And what about that spouse who apparently can’t do anything without specific instructions from his wife?  Did he manage to become an adult without making those kinds of decisions?  Would he really be unable to get cable connected without the wife giving him the phone number and the speech he should recite?

Almost home

Almost home

Come on people!  How about we focus on our jobs when we’re at work?  How about we let our families handle whatever is going on in their lives and learn their own lessons?  How about we let the person on the other side of the cubicle wall do her job in relative peace without informing her (ok, probably not deliberately) of all details of your totally not interesting life.

Ok.  I’m done now.  Thanks for listening.

Home again

Home again


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We got to go to the park!

This is MY park.  But you can come along too.

This is MY park. But you can come along too.

Katie here.  Guess what?!  Bet you can’t guess!  Huh?  Huh?  Guess what!!!  Oh.  You guessed?  Cause it was in the TITLE?  GEEZE….I told Mama to make it more mysterious.  OK.  Well anyway.  I finally wore Mama down and we went to MY FAVORITE PARK on Sunday afternoon!  Mama said it was stinking cold and we weren’t going to stay very long because her gloves weren’t good and her fingers were frozen.  I told her to shut up and start walking faster and she’d warm up.  Plus if she’d stop taking pictures (Click on the photos for more detail) her fingers wouldn’t be out in the cold so much.  Sometimes Mama just needs to have some common sense pointed out to her.

This is so much FUN!

This is so much FUN!

So anyway…we ended up walking around the whole park just like we do in summer!  It’s about a mile around and there was lots of ice under the snow so sometimes Mama was just creeping along.  I, on the other hand, had no problem.  Because she was moving so slow I got to sniff lots of stuff which was way more fun then when she’s always telling me to come on.

Sometimes I am majestic.  Don't you think?

Sometimes I am majestic. Don’t you think?

She got quite a few pictures of me (the park was pretty too) that I personally thought were stunning.

Did you hear something over there?

Did you hear something over there?

I hope you enjoy seeing how beautiful I am.

I still hear something over there!

I still hear something over there!

I know you do.

I love you Mama!

I love you Mama!


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Come along on an adventure!

Following in friend's path.

Following in friend’s path.

I spent the weekend ‘up north’ in Michigan, visiting a friend up at the tip of Michigan’s little finger.

It was a wonderful weekend full of good talk and good food and lots of snow.

Chasing the snow front.

Chasing the snow front.

Snow is a good thing when you get to play in it rather than try to commute in it.

Peaceful.

Peaceful.

Sure is pretty too.

Snowy orchard.

Snowy orchard.

Enough now….maybe more later.  I’m settling back into my real life.

Climbing the mountain of real life.

Climbing the mountain of real life.

Sigh.

Good memories.

Good memories.


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Confused weather

People down in Phoenix Arizona are suffering through unusually cold weather with temperatures at night hovering near freezing (32F,  0C).  I hear there is snow near Los Angles California   and this morning I saw it was -6 degrees F (-21.1 C) in Denver Colorado.  Yet here in Michigan we took down our Christmas lights on a balmy 50+F (10 C) afternoon.

Though the sky was overcast and the air felt damp we enjoyed our afternoon of packing away the lights.  Normally we are doing this with frozen fingers, bundled up in layers complete with hats and gloves.  Or worse, in blowing snow while tromping through drifts up to our knees.   We commented as we worked that it felt like we were in midwinter Alabama.  And we smiled.

Yet…there is this niggling worry in the back of my mind.  Though it’s easier to deal with outdoor winter tasks when it’s warm, it just feels wrong.  We had an unusually warm day when we put the lights up this past November too…and now are blessed with an easy dismantling.  Something just isn’t right.   Maybe I’m feeling unsettled because I just read Barbara Kingsolver’s latest book, “Flight Behavior” which revolves around the warming of our earth and the consequences wrought by barely discernible changes.  Maybe it’s because I remember winters as a kid where we dug snow caves and argued about whose turn it was to shovel the sidewalk.   So far this winter we’ve only used the snowblower once.  I don’t know if we used it all last winter.  Don’t get me wrong, part of me is grateful that I’m not driving to work in blizzards or shoveling the driveway.  But something just feels wrong.

Now I’ve probably gone and jinxed it, and likely tomorrow’s cold snap will feel more familiar.  And I suppose now there will be 6 or more inches of snow falling on Monday just in time for the morning commute.  But I think I’d be OK with all of that.

Remind me  I said this later on as the winter wears on — won’t you?

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Merry Christmas

Merry Christmas everyone!

Merry Christmas everyone!

Katie and I would like to wish all of you, all over the world, a wonderful holiday.  This year it will be just the three of us together, Katie, her Dad and me.  We will enjoy a quiet day, mixed in with a bit of barking at imaginary monsters at the front door.  She’s practicing that now.  Later on I’ll cook a holiday dinner for us and maybe we’ll watch a movie.  Or take a nap.  Simple, quiet ways to spend the one precious day off from work that I have.

Oh wait!  Katie says it’s CHRISTMAS Mama!  We have to have an adventure!  Well.  You never know.  A good romp at the park might fit into our simple family holiday.

And then a nap.