Yesterday was Inauguration Day. Depending on where you stand it might have been a wonderful, uplifting day or it might have been a tragedy. I have thoughts about all that swirling around in my head – they may or may not spill out eventually.
But that’s not where my head or heart are today.
Because, you see, last night, after a day where the world focused on the big picture, after the sun set in a show we haven’t seen here in years, once the world went still, my neighbor left this earth quietly, his departure marked only by family.
I tell you this not because it was a tragedy, though they will miss him fiercely, but because it reminds me this morning of what is important. It’s not the arguments over real or imagined fears, it’s not the friendships destroyed by political influence, it’s not cabinet appointments or policy changes.
What’s important, really, are the relationships we all have, with our family members, with our friends, with our neighbors. Those are what need to be protected, those are fragile, those will not last forever. Those are what we must work on now.
Last night the birdhouse our neighbor made for us many years ago fell from it’s tree. And last night our neighbor broke free, no longer in pain, no longer confused, no longer in tears.
God speed Jack, Katie and I will miss sitting on your front porch in conversation, or near the end, in communal silence, watching the world go by. She looks toward your house when we’re out on walks and will still tug me toward your driveway. Thanks for always giving her an ear scratch. She’ll miss your, “Whatcha doing girl?”
So will I.
January 21, 2021 at 4:43 pm
No words, Dawn. Just a big hug. Oh gosh, when will we be able to give hugs again. ❤
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January 22, 2021 at 11:52 am
I don’t know. I hope someday this year. I talked to his widow last night, just want to give her a hug and can’t do that right now. I guess I’ll make her soup instead.
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January 21, 2021 at 5:20 pm
What a beautiful heartfelt post. Sending prayers to his family and yours as well. May he rest in peace, and we should cherish every day we have on this Earth. Sending virtual hugs! 🥰🙏❤️
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January 22, 2021 at 11:52 am
Thanks. He’s been in so much pain for so long, this is a blessing for him, but hard for his family.
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January 21, 2021 at 8:32 pm
Very nice tribute.
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January 22, 2021 at 11:53 am
thank you
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January 21, 2021 at 9:03 pm
💔
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January 22, 2021 at 11:53 am
It’s something of a relief for his family, he’s been in so much pain for so long. But they will sure miss him.
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January 21, 2021 at 11:41 pm
So very sorry! A big loss for the neighborhood as well as for the family.
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January 22, 2021 at 11:56 am
Yes, we are used to seeing him riding his lawnmower almost every day, but he hasn’t been able to do that for a couple years. He liked to keep his lawn pristine, we used to kid him about it. That’s the way I’ll remember him, on his mower.
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January 22, 2021 at 2:02 pm
Nice!
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January 22, 2021 at 6:26 am
You are right…what matters in the end has a way of making sense of all of it. So sorry for your loss. 💗
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January 22, 2021 at 11:57 am
I’m happy for him, it’s what he’s wanted for several months, maybe over a year as he has sunk into pain and dementia. Still. It’s a big loss for his family, and by extension, us too.
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January 22, 2021 at 7:41 am
Oh Dawn, I am so sorry. What a beautiful post, reminding us what is important. Sending a hug to you.
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January 22, 2021 at 11:57 am
I will forward it to his family who will be struggling with missing him.
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January 22, 2021 at 10:14 am
Glad Jack had a neighbor who obviously genuinely cared about him.
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January 22, 2021 at 11:58 am
Yes, he had neighbors all through our little block that looked out for him and his family as they worked their way through all the issues dementia and chronic pain present.
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January 22, 2021 at 10:31 am
So sorry to hear about your neighbor. Dogs just *know* though, don’t they? This is a lovely tribute and makes a necessary point: relationships matter, people matter. Thanks for saying it so well!
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January 22, 2021 at 11:59 am
Yes, Katie knew. She’s not naturally a cuddly dog, but she always pulled me down the driveway when she saw Jack. Once she greeted him she was content to sit around while we talked, but she always initiated the meeting. She still pulls me toward his house though he hadn’t been outside in months.
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January 22, 2021 at 7:31 pm
I’m so sorry for your loss, Dawn. My prayers for peace to you and the family. It really doesn’t matter what goes on in the world, but what goes on in our own neighborhoods. You all shared the gift of friendship and connection.
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January 23, 2021 at 5:31 pm
Yes, we do try to take care of each other in our little neighborhood.
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January 23, 2021 at 7:48 am
A lovely post about what is important and ephemeral in life. My condolences on your loss.
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January 23, 2021 at 5:32 pm
Thank you. It’s a huge loss for his family. For us, it’s a sad time, and we’ll especially miss him this next summer when he’s not sitting out on his porch for us to visit.
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January 24, 2021 at 3:21 pm
My sympathy, good friends and neighbors are a blessing.
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January 24, 2021 at 3:24 pm
Thank you, they sure are.
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January 25, 2021 at 1:24 pm
What a lovely tribute to your friend and neighbor. I am sending prayers for peace for you and for his family.
And I agree wholeheartedly with what you say… we need to focus on the good and on Today!
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