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A friend named Deuce

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Katie here.

I would like to let you all know that my good friend Deuce the cocker spaniel is now safe with me and his other dog friends over the Rainbow Bridge. Last night mama asked me to keep an eye out for him because he’d be journeying today, and to make sure he got introduced around here once he arrived.

Deuce, May 23, 2012 – March 18, 2025.

She said she didn’t want him to feel alone or scared, and since we were buddies back in the day she knew I’d be glad to see him again and that I’d take good care of him. Well, it turns out there were several dog friends waiting expectantly for him, so he had quite a wonderful reunion.

Deuce could fly even before he crossed the bridge!

Mama also asked me to tell you about his remarkable life because, she says, typing when her eyes are leaking is really hard. So, let me tell you about my friend Deuce.

Always happy when he could run on a trail.

Deuce and I go way back. Our moms got us together pretty often to walk in parks, near his house and over at my parks too. Some of my best walks ever were with my friend Deuce.

We sure enjoyed walking together.

He was always a gentleman and let me pee on stuff first, then he’d pee there to validate the spot. We usually walked separately but together, if you know what I mean. If either of us discovered a good spot we’d invite the other one over to enjoy it, but in general we were our own dog on most of our walks.

Sometimes he liked to photobomb me, just for fun.

Not to say we didn’t sit near each other a lot when asked, mostly to humor the moms.

Yep, we’d sit together if it made the moms happy.

But Deuce did a lot of other things besides walk with me. He was a very dedicated, certified, therapy dog. He visited nursing homes and schools and had special friends there that loved him, and he loved them back.

Deuce pays his respect at a wall honoring military dogs who have gone on ahead.

As soon as he put his therapy dog vest on he knew he was working and he loved every minute of it. Why he even went up to people in wheelchairs when he was out and about and not in his official capacity. He just seemed to know when someone needed a little snuggle.

A special stop to visit Cody the therapy dog.

He liked adventure too. One summer I took Deuce and his mom camping with me. Deuce had never camped before but he settled right into the new experience. He had his own tent that he shared with his mom, and his own chair to sit in when we hung out around the fire.

We each had our own tents, no cohabitating allowed!

But mostly on that trip we walked and played in the woods around the campground. Deuce liked to climb up on stuff we’d find there; he was a very good jumper.

Deuce never met a log he didn’t want to climb on!

He was a few years younger than me, so usually I let him jump high up and pose and I’d settle myself somewhere below.

We liked to goof off together.

Both of us were good about sharing our moms. And we let them take as many pictures of us as they wanted. Which, I guess, is good now that he’s up here with me. I think all those pictures will make our moms feel just a little better as they remember all the good times we had together.

I love you, mom! We’re a team!

I feel I’ve known Deuce forever! I first met him at doggy school where we were both learning obedience. Deuce was much more obedient than me. He was such a fast learner and such a good dog. He was and always will be his mom’s Little Buddy, and he’d do or learn anything for her.

She doesn’t know what she will do without him.

Deuce and his mom on our camping adventure.

Deuce says he wants to reassure her that he’ll be watching over her and his younger brothers and if she needs him, especially to put the youngest one in his place, why, he’ll be right there. Guaranteed.

His walks with his mom were special.

He says he’s sorry he had to move on, but as the top dog of the household it’s his responsibility to make sure everything up ahead is copesetic. He says that will be one of his main duties while he’s here waiting for his mom.

I figure there will also be time for long walks, and maybe even some running and jumping, just like he and I used to do.

Things look good up here, mom!

Deuce and I used to race each other sometimes on our walks. We’d line up and the moms would call “COME!” and we’d both run toward them. I usually let Deuce win. Though it’s entirely possible he was just faster than me. Up here ,everybody wins and we get to run and run as much as we want!

He beat me fair and square on this race.

Deuce and his mom were a great team. He wants her to remember him that way, as part of their team while they did obedience, or rally, or when he was working as a therapy dog, or even when they were just walking through the woods together.

Team Deuce.

Deuce says he’ll always be part of that team and he’ll always love his mom, just like she’ll always love him.

Deuce looked handsome in any season.

He reminds us that love is forever, no matter what. I know you guys will miss seeing him every day, but if you look closely, when you’re out in the woods, or napping on the sofa, or training one of the younger dogs, I bet you’ll see him, right there, just around that corner.

Deuce stayed with my folks once, after I had to leave. He helped them when they were missing me.

You might not see it right now, but he’s smiling, and patiently waiting until he sees you again. In the meantime Deuce and I have walks to do and dogs to meet. Please be happy for us. We are young and healthy and feeling wonderful now.

Sometimes Deuce looked like a grumpy old man, but he was always smiling underneath.

We promise we’ll be right here when it’s your time to cross the Rainbow Bridge.

We’re together, right here over the bridge, waiting for our people!

Deuce is a special boy, and he touched the lives of a whole lot of people. I know you all wish him the very best adventures over on this side of the Rainbow Bridge.

Well, we’ve got a lot to do up here, so I’ll sign off for now, Deuce and I just wanted you to know we’re doing just fine and we love you.

Talk later,

Your Bridge Tour Guide, Katie-girl, and her Intrepid Buddy, Deuce.

Author: dawnkinster

I'm a long time banker having worked in banks since the age of 17. I took a break when I turned 50 and went back to school. I graduated right when the economy took a turn for the worst and after a year of library work found myself unemployed. I was lucky that my previous bank employer wanted me back. So here I am again, a long time banker. Change is hard.

31 thoughts on “A friend named Deuce

  1. So sorry! Such beautiful pictures of Deuce and Katie. Sounds like a wonderful dog. My eyes are leaking, too. Sigh.

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    • He WAS a beautiful boy. We went on so many adventures together, even after Katie got too old, we still went over to Lake Huron and up to northern Michigan on the shores of Lake Michigan together. I will miss him, and his mother and little brothers are devastated.

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  2. I am so glad Deuce has friends waiting for him, and I’m sure his mom is too. It’s hard for moms to give up their babies.

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  3. Katie–this was just beautiful. I hope Deuce’s mom knows that he is safe and happy to both be with you and also, watch over her. ❤

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  4. what a sweet tribute to a lovely dog. i hope his mom can take some comfort in knowing that he is there with friends and enjoying nice walks. my sympathies to all

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  5. What a beautiful post, Katie. How fortunate Deuce is to have you welcome him in such a heartfelt and love-filled manner.

    So beautiful. And I’m sending extra hugs to Deuce’s mom who will surely miss him terribly, even though she knows he is in such wonderful paws.

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  6. Hi Katie…such a beautiful, heartfelt update. I am so sorry that Deuce had to leave his mom and all of his friends. He is a special boy and was very fortunate to have you as a friend, an older sister to watch out for him and show him the ropes of the ‘bridge. My eyes are leaking while reading your post. I miss you and my pups at Rainbow bridge. I know your folks are missing you and Deuce, too. Thank you to you and all of the pups at the Bridge for staying close to your family and friends…we miss you dearly and love you.

    Dawn, I am so sorry for your (and your friend’s) loss. It is so heartbreaking to lose a dearly loved, precious part of our lives. Sending you a gentle hug.

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  7. What a lovely story! Dogs are forever. Love is forever.

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  8. As soon as I saw your header picture, I instinctively knew poor Deuce had crossed the Rainbow Bridge. How sorry I am for his people! They’re going to miss that good boy. My own eyes are leaking, remembering his camping trip with Katie — just seeing her own lovely photos again brings back what a great girl she was. Gosh, why do our dogs have such short lives on this planet??

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  9. My condolences. Deuce looks like a great friend and a good dog.

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  10. Deuce is so photogenic in these photos Katie – of course you are too, but I agree with you that Deuce looks great in all seasons. I am glad you are there to welcome him now – a friendly face is always a welcome sight.

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  11. Oh sweet Katie-girl, I’m so glad you were there waiting for good boy Deuce. Hugs to his heartbroken mom. She gave him a beautiful life.

    I love the idea of “separate but together”. What a wonderful way to describe your friendship.

    My heart goes out to everyone who knew and loved Deuce. I always enjoyed reading about your adventures together. ❤

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    • Thank you Sara. It’s comforting to know there are people out there that never met Deuce yet remember him. That camping trip was a special adventure for Katie and me, to share with him and his mom.

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  12. My sympathy to Deuce’s Mom and to you, our four legged friends are missed very much.

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    • Yes they are I went for a walk with Deuce’s mom and his baby brother today at Katie’s park. We shared some memories of Deuce while we were out there. Lots of memories everywhere.

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  13. I am soooo deeply sorry about the loss of your special friend, Deuce. He was truly a handsome and special boy. What beautiful adventures you shared with him!! I know you are taking good care of him now and are enjoying long walks together ((((hugs))) I am deeply sorry for his sweet Mama too.

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    • He was such a special boy. Katie and he did a lot of adventures together, they were similar size and temperament. They had a lot of fun and provided us, the moms, so many great memories.

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