Change Is Hard

…but change is certain.

Sad reminder


Last night we watched the news about more tornadoes across the Midwest.   Today the death toll mounts.   I was sad as I drove into work; sad that these things happen, sad that I’ve been grumpy about my work when I should be glad I have work, sad that so many people across the country have such horrible things to struggle through.

And when I got to work the sadness deepened; I learned that one of my coworker’s Dad had died unexpectedly this past weekend.

The coworker is about my age and a couple weeks ago she decided she felt like going ‘home’ to Florida – to take a break from work and to visit with her folks.  So she up and made the reservations and went.  It was a spur of the moment trip and she had a great time. Last week she was back to work, content and relaxed.  Today’s she’s back in Florida helping her Mom cope, trying to cope herself.

I understand because the same thing happened to me with my Mom.  Sudden death is just so difficult to comprehend.  You just saw them.  Now they’re gone.  Unfathomable.

So my heart goes out to all the families who lost loved ones this weekend.  It wasn’t the end of the entire world, but it was the end of the world as they knew it.

Such sudden and tragic change should remind us all that today is all we have.  Make the most of it with those you love.  I’m sure my friend is glad she made the trip two weeks ago.

If you haven’t seen someone you love in awhile and if you can – well – go book that flight, make that hotel reservation tonight.  Hugs are waiting for you and you wouldn’t want to miss them.

Author: dawnkinster

I'm a long time banker having worked in banks since the age of 17. I took a break when I turned 50 and went back to school. I graduated right when the economy took a turn for the worst and after a year of library work found myself unemployed. I was lucky that my previous bank employer wanted me back. So here I am again, a long time banker. Change is hard.

9 thoughts on “Sad reminder

  1. There is so much sadness in the world. Today in the paper they had an article about a local girl. She is getting ready to graduate from high school. This year her dad died after a sudden and short battle with pancreititis. Then 3 months later, she got up to find her mom had died in the night of a heart attack. The story was just to sad. I just can even imagine how this young girl is dealing with all this. Life can be so full of such hardship. I hope all of these people get to find some happiness soon.


  2. ;-( sooo sad to think of what so many are having to go through


  3. Life is so hard and often unfair.

    I’m sure your co-worker will find comfort in your understanding support.


  4. Aw man, Diana! High school is just way too young to lose both parents!!


  5. Even amongst such sadness – there is always moments of happiness. When looking through the rubble and finding photo’s that hold treasured memories, finding a memento unbroken. It can often be the little things that mean so much.


  6. Life isn’t easy at all.
    I’m so sorry to hear about your co-worker’s loss. We will keep the family in our thoughts.


  7. Dawn, you have the best heart in the whole world!


  8. Death sucks. I am glad your co-worker had the opportunity to go and hug…for sure that memory will be an important one-maybe the most important one. Your right–hugs are waiting and other things will wait while you gather them up.
    Joe and I believe and explained bad things to Cole this way from a very young age. I am very aware that our way of thinking does not comfort everyone but it does help us. Long before we are were born we chose a path for this life time so that we can learn the lessons we chose to learn. Cole is not clear why he would have chosen a life that would include losing a parent at the start of his teen years but he believes the reasons will unfold over time. I think this understanding has helped him resist feeling completely helpless and overwhelmed about his loss and life circumstances. I know it has helped me.
    Your co-worker is lucky to have you and your understanding.


  9. It seems sometimes that life is just way too unfair, and sometimes it is. It’s hard to see that usually it could be worse, but usually it could be. It’s good your co-worker followed her impulse and visited before her father died; at least she got those hugs.


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