Change Is Hard

…but change is certain.

College dorm


Visiting her at the nursing home we talked about how difficult it is for her to adjust to her new life. Rules and roommates, the shared bathroom, the shower room down the hall.

“Sounds like you’re back in college and living in a dorm.” I laughed. “You just need to find some boys and a keg of beer and you’re good to go.”

She laughed too, but then her smile faded.

“It’s hard” she said. “There’s so much to learn here and that’s not easy when you’re a hundred and one!”

“You can do it,” I replied. “And I expect by next week you’ll be learning Italian.”

She laughed again. And then she said it. “Change is hard.”

I nodded in agreement. Yes, it certainly is.

Her bird, Charlie, aka Buddy, died this week, while in the care of a friend back at the apartment building. Maybe he died of a broken heart. Maybe he just got old. Regardless, it is another loss for her to absorb.

Loss after loss. She is strong, has been for 101 years. But this is a lot, would be a lot for anyone.

She says it best. “It’s hell to get old.”

RIP Buddy.

RIP Buddy.

Author: dawnkinster

I'm a long time banker having worked in banks since the age of 17. I took a break when I turned 50 and went back to school. I graduated right when the economy took a turn for the worst and after a year of library work found myself unemployed. I was lucky that my previous bank employer wanted me back. So here I am again, a long time banker. Change is hard.

29 thoughts on “College dorm

  1. Change is hard – so sorry to read she lost buddy


  2. I can’t “like” this. It breaks my heart.


  3. Yes, like my mom always said too, “Getting old is not for sissies.” And now I’m learning it for myself.


  4. Sad. It’s as if, when we reach a certain point in life, we begin to go backwards.


    • It’s hard. She didn’t want to go there…but she can’t be by herself anymore. Though she doesn’t understand that. And her mind is sharp so she recognizes all the loss.


  5. I think one of the saddest things about getting older is having to watch while those we love pass on. So sorry to hear about your aunt’s birdie. Birds go to the Rainbow Bridge, too, don’t they??


  6. I am so sad…. I am so sorry about Charlie (Buddy), I had a sick feeling that was going to happen. My heart is just broken for them both.


  7. oh this is just so sad- I feel awful for her. Change is hard- and so many changes for her to endure


  8. I clicked “Like” for your writing, not for the content/message (if that makes sense). I’m so sorry to hear that Buddy died. She’s right. Change is hard, as we’re all finding out lately. I have found myself wondering lately how those older than I am keep going sometimes. So many losses as we age — people, places, pets, and more.


  9. That makes me sad. I hope she is able to adjust and find a sense of peace in her new reality.


  10. Hope she finds a congenial friend — or two or more — in her new living situation. Change is sometimes very hard, indeed.


  11. the way you write about her is so heartfelt and warm, and yes change is hard, very hard.


  12. She is resilient! Sorry to hear she lost buddy.


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