Change Is Hard

…but change is certain.

Contemplation on this historic day


I’ve been pretty distracted while waiting on election results. Day after day with seemingly little movement.

It’s been a dark and stormy process.

I’ve been trying to stay out of the fray on Facebook and twitter. Once in awhile I’ve weighed in with my opinion that the reason it was taking so long was the inordinate amount of mail in ballots, the record level of turnout for this election, and the care that ballot counters were taking to get it right.

But to be honest my nerves were frayed.

Everyone is feeling a little prickly.

I know that a good portion, maybe even more than 50% of my friends are from the other side of the aisle. I know that today, when the election was finally called, they feel the same gut punch I felt 4 years ago when I woke up to a result I didn’t expect and didn’t like.

Bits of sky show the promise of sun.

I know it will take them a few days, maybe longer, to process the results and decide how they’re going to move forward. I know they are just as scared about the future now as I was four years ago.

Most of us have some inner soul searching to do.

And I know that we will continue to be friends, and I hope, as the physical evidence of which side we’re on, those pesky yard signs, are put away that we can move forward together.

The winds of politics are changing.

The world won’t have changed so very much after January 20th. We’ll still have covid, economic hardships, climate change, world squirmishes, racial tension, job insecurities, and probably some stuff we don’t even know about yet, to deal with. If we work on these together life will be easier.

If you need a hug, I’m available.

Here’s hoping there’s a big table somewhere that everyone is invited to as we begin the work.

Lean toward the light.

Author: dawnkinster

I'm a long time banker having worked in banks since the age of 17. I took a break when I turned 50 and went back to school. I graduated right when the economy took a turn for the worst and after a year of library work found myself unemployed. I was lucky that my previous bank employer wanted me back. So here I am again, a long time banker. Change is hard.

26 thoughts on “Contemplation on this historic day

  1. Dawn–I loved this post and how you matched your words with your photos. And then Katie showed up and I just cried. Katie I need a real big hug. Today was so worth the wait, but I really need a hug.

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  2. There is a god. He has a warped sense of humor, but he came through today.

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  3. Dawn: This is a lovely post. I do feel like I can breathe again. Thanks Judie

    Judie Stone Sent from my iPad



  4. The key is maintaining friendships. Most of my closest friends were Trump supporters, but we have to move on. I’m happy that Biden has won, and I hope we all work with him to unify our country. Best wishes for moving forward with all.


  5. I loved your post!
    Now if there is someway we can bring “US” all together!
    Happy Weekend to you!


  6. I’ve also been thinking a lot about the “gut punch” some of my friends are feeling today. Wondering how we can move into a less divisive country. No answers, but it is a wish of many of us, I think.


  7. I’ve been checking in on Twitter all day. It’s been a joy to read the tweets from people who are happy– and finally relaxed. I’m in a similar situation as you, surrounded by people who voted for tRump despite knowing who he is. I’ll never think of them as friends again, but I will be civil. I think that’s the best that any of us can do.


    • We can all do a little bit. The cumulative effort is what will move us back together. It’s very possible we were never as ‘together’ as we thought we were, but we can heal some of the bad feelings between us.

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  8. you have written so beautifully and your photos help to express the feelings. i love how you are including all of our people in your thoughts and in expressing the hope for us to be united again. i read your post regularly but haven’t written in a long time. much good wishes sent to you from Oregon. bess


    • Hi Bess! I was thinking about you a couple weeks ago, wondering how you were! So glad to see you here! Are you blogging somewhere that I lost track of?


      • no, i am not checking in on any blogs. rvsue posts about every 6 months so i don’t check anyone else out either. we went camping to the coast last week during a sunny spell, and had the campground most to ourselves because of covid. it was nice and quiet and eeriely empty. we may go again in the next few weeks to get away from the stress. now the election is over my stress meter has really gone down. here in Eugene, we are a very very liberal town, but we are surrounded by trumpers. i am sure you got tired of nasty political ads. we were pretty much ignored which was good.

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        • Yes, the stress level has lessened. It’s be in the 70s here for a few days. I got a new tent and yesterday I put it up in the backyard to make sure all the parts were there. Then thought about sleeping out there, got sleeping pad, blankets, pillows in there, but during the evening I fell asleep watching TV and never made it out there. We have one more night of good weather, tonight, before it gets cold again, so I’ll leave the tent up today and maybe sleep out there tonight…in the middle of November! Glad you enjoyed your camping, I like being out there when the campground is empty. So peaceful!


  9. Today I felt as though a great weight had been lifted from me. What a week! Good luck with those friends. Not easy coming together when there is such a divide. Hugs to darling Katie from Maine.


  10. This is a great conciliatory post, written with a of Nelson Mandela attitude. The pro/anti Trump se timent verbarates in South Africa as well. I am anti Trump, I am not anti Trump supporters. One of the commentators stated that the precidency of a nation is like back ground music of the country. I for ons is happy that the back ground music is now going to less erratic and more unifying


  11. Every word is how I feel. I feel like I can finally breath again after 4 years of dread. Biden wants to reunite the country, and I will do whatever I personally can to help that along.


    • I believe it will take all of us to reunite the country. And I also believe that we will never be totally united, but that’s the beauty of this country, people can have feelings different than mine. If we all try to keep our hearts and minds open we can probably come to compromises on any number of important issues, and that’s my goal. Just this morning my neighbor was jogging by with his dog. He has (maybe it’s down now) a huge Trump sign in his yard, two houses up. We both smiled and waved at each other, as we have every day, and as we will continue to do. Different perspectives on governing, but still neighbors.


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