Change Is Hard

…but change is certain.

Sixteenth anniversary


Early in the morning, sixteen years ago today, dad went home to be with mom.

Studying a map. But there’s no roadmap to heaven.

We said, sadly, that she sent a semi-truck to collect him; she’d been gone five months and they hadn’t been apart for that long since the early days of their marriage when dad got drafted into the army.

1954, he’s in the army now.

So today my family and I think about him. And them. And wish it all could have been different.

1961, the whole family.

But there is comfort knowing they are together for always.

The way I like to think of them, laughing and happy.

When mom came down and collected him that morning, sixteen years ago, I imagine he was glad to see her but worried about leaving all of us.

1990, still had fourteen years of marriage ahead of them.

So I’ll remind him, you both raised us well, rest easy; we’re doing just fine.

See you both again someday.

50th wedding anniversary on Lake Michigan.

Author: dawnkinster

I'm a long time banker having worked in banks since the age of 17. I took a break when I turned 50 and went back to school. I graduated right when the economy took a turn for the worst and after a year of library work found myself unemployed. I was lucky that my previous bank employer wanted me back. So here I am again, a long time banker. Change is hard.

24 thoughts on “Sixteenth anniversary

  1. 16 years is a long time. Hold tight to all the love in your memories. Love never leaves – it is in your heart.


  2. There is never a good time, but two days before Christmas – what an awful time! My thoughts are with you on this anniversary.


  3. Praying God comforts you today in a way that is meaningful to your heart.


  4. Dawn, I’m thinking of you and wishing you comfort. Warm virtual hugs.


  5. So hard to lose someone you love, especially during the holidays. My own dad left us on New Year’s Eve 12 years ago, so I empathize with your sorrow. Hugs, Dawn!


  6. Oh, my. Hugs from Maine as well. So very, very sorry!


  7. Happy sad memories. Hugs.


  8. What a sweet and sad and loving tribute to your dad and mom. xoxo


  9. May your good memories give you some comfort. It must be so hard that it was close to Christmas… sending you a hug and hope you can find some joy in your Christmas Day:)


  10. Your memories are in your heart and you have pictures to look back on but it never replaces our parents being here with us.


  11. These anniversaries are hard, but I imagine that this one is particularly hard. At that time of year really really hard. I think you picked a good selection of photos for this annual goodbye.


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