Change Is Hard

…but change is certain.

Eighteen Years


William H. Badger. Feb 4, 1929 – December 23, 2004.

Eighteen years without you is a long time. And no time.

You should have had more time.

Sometimes it feels like we’ve made no progress at all. And sometimes I know we’ve at least stopped some of the unsafe propositions, maybe even made a few inroads toward safety.


You should have had more time, and we can’t fix that for you or any of the thousands of families trying to move forward with their own grief. Their own new normal. I hate that term.

Eighteen years ago this morning. Last night, laying sleeplessly in bed, I imagined you getting up so very early in the dark morning, making sure the heat was turned down, the water turned off, and the doors locked, putting your suitcase into the trunk of your car and heading toward the airport.

You never got there. You never got to come home.

It’s not right, not for you or for us. Not for the 5,000 plus families that faced similar facts in 2021, or the as yet unnumbered thousands from 2022. And the hundreds of thousands of injured every single year.

We have to keep working, even though we’re all tired.

Because you all should have had more time.

Author: dawnkinster

I'm a long time banker having worked in banks since the age of 17. I took a break when I turned 50 and went back to school. I graduated right when the economy took a turn for the worst and after a year of library work found myself unemployed. I was lucky that my previous bank employer wanted me back. So here I am again, a long time banker. Change is hard.

12 thoughts on “Eighteen Years

  1. There will never be enough words for this –

    But we are all pretty sure he’s supporting you from The Human Rainbow Bridge with NAK nosing him on –

    And you are making them proud

    Willow and Phyll


  2. A sad anniversary… Nobody has enough time, but it shouldn’t have to end like that. Keep fighting that good fight and lets hope those yearly numbers dwindle.


  3. Heart-breaking, Dawn. I know you miss him and wish you’d had more time together. What an awful thing to have happen (especially at the holidays and especially how it didn’t have to happen). Hugs~


  4. I wish you had had him for much longer. Life is unfair.

    I went on the truck safety coalition website to make a donation last month. I clicked on “our stories”. I looked at the many, many faces of all ages, races and gender. I read their names. It was heartbreaking to see so many, and I know that there are many more victims.

    I also want to say that I really appreciated the personal phone call and thank you note from the organization in response to my small donation. ❤


  5. There is never enough time with those we love, and it’s hard for us to think of all the events we’ve experienced without them that they would have loved. Hugs!


  6. Losing a parent is hard. Losing one because [stupidity] is even harder.
    Hugs again. Thanks again for trying to reduce the stupidity..


  7. Sending you hugs, Dawn. I know your Dad is watching over you and is proud of the tireless work that you do to make a difference.


  8. Well put dear sister. Hugs to you.


  9. Amen to everything you and everyone has said. Love is so precious. May love always be the most important things.


  10. I always think of you and your father and the changes you have brought about when I see an 18 wheeler flying down the highway. ❤

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