Last October my aunt died at age 87. She was the woman that shared her beloved Ann Arbor Symphony with me for more than 30 years, who took me to see musicals and concerts, even the opera. This past week I learned another woman who mentored me in art and work had died at age 86. I watched her memorial service online and wished I’d had more time with her.
It seems the women older than me, those I looked up to and learned from, are moving on and now, when I look around, I realize I am the older woman.
I was struck by this concept last night before our Community Band spring concert while talking to our first chair clarinet who would be conducting a piece for the very first time in his young life. He was nervous and excited and kind of jumpy. I told him not to worry, that we as a band wouldn’t let him down. He smiled and nodded and skittered back to his seat.
He’s just completed 10th grade. I don’t even remember 10th grade.

Last night as we played Benediction by John Stevens I thought of my aunt and my friend and hoped they were somehow listening. I said a silent thank you to them both.
Later, on the drive home, and after a pounding rainstorm had slicked the roads with a shimmer of water, the brilliant orange sun emerged from the clouds and lit the wet pavement in front of me. For a few minutes the road led directly into the setting sun, a ribbon of rose gold, seeming to lead right off into forever.
It was a perfect ending to a good day, and this older woman from a previous generation knew enough to notice and appreciate it, thanks to all the good mentoring I’ve received.
I guess it’s time to pass it on.
June 14, 2023 at 8:26 am
Great to keep their memories alive.
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June 15, 2023 at 10:54 am
Yes it is.
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June 14, 2023 at 8:49 am
Oh, lovely, lovely, both the words and the music, which I’m listening to right now. Yes, time passes and the people we love die. As will we.
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June 15, 2023 at 10:54 am
Yes, it’s kind of odd to realize we’re getting close to the head of the line.
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June 14, 2023 at 10:16 am
Reading this gave me goosebumps, Dawn.
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June 15, 2023 at 10:54 am
Awwwwwww
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June 14, 2023 at 1:17 pm
Life is an adventure – we can learn from it or we can regret it. You have many years in front of you, enjoy them and follow your heart.
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June 15, 2023 at 10:55 am
I agree….but 86 or 87 doesn’t seem that far away now.
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June 15, 2023 at 12:36 pm
And the years go by more quickly every single year.
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June 14, 2023 at 2:13 pm
A thoughtful piece. It’s hard to realise that we are now the ones nearing the end of the road, that young blood carries te torch from now on.
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June 15, 2023 at 10:56 am
It’s always startling for me to realize that people with KIDS could be my kids…and even more weird is that People with GRANDKIDS are my age!
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June 15, 2023 at 11:01 am
I KNOW! Aaagh!
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June 14, 2023 at 11:51 pm
Oh, that was so well written! and deeply felt. I’ve been thinking about offering to mentor young women mechanics who are in school. That just got moved to the top of my list. Thank you. These days, we may be on a different side of the path, playing on a different part of the team, or a different position in the orchestra, but we’re still an important piece of the picture.
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June 15, 2023 at 10:57 am
Yes, I don’t think the youngsters in our band think we’re silly old people…yet anyway. But I do get that feeling from people working on my car, or mowing my lawn, or answering my questions about getting work done around the house. There’s a sort of forced patience they exude that irritates me. But I’m sure I was the same way when I was in my 20s and 30s. Not that I can remember that far back.
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June 15, 2023 at 5:12 am
Lovely post, Dawn. We all need to look back and thank those who’ve shown us the way, as well as look forward to those who are looking to *us* for the way! I’m certain your concert went beautifully — what a delightful tribute to the mentors in your life. Makes me think perhaps there are some people I, too, need to thank!
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June 15, 2023 at 10:58 am
The concert was lovely. We do it all again tomorrow night at an outside venue, as the opening act for some other group.
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June 15, 2023 at 8:38 am
Your music is making memories for others, too.
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June 15, 2023 at 10:59 am
That’s true. And a good point.
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June 15, 2023 at 12:38 pm
lol! I don’t remember the 10th grade, either. Funny how life gets passed on to us and then we become the ones passing it on to others. (I’m sure they were there, listening.)
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June 15, 2023 at 12:55 pm
I don’t feel ready to pass it on yet…but apparently it’s becoming time!
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June 16, 2023 at 6:39 am
I love this! We become the teachers, yet we can still remain students. Life is good.
One of my students asked me this year which teachers were teaching at our school longer than me. I could only come up with one person! Boy, feels like yesterday that the hall monitors were asking ME for a hall pass, because they thought I was a student. That doesn’t happen anymore 😊
(And 10th graders are my favorites!)
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